She Kisses Everyone!!
HireFire01
26 Posts
We have a kissing bandit on our hands! Every morning she does her rounds, giving all the guys in the office big kisses and hugs. Sometimes she even takes running leaps and jumps into their arms!
As the HR manager I have spoken with her several times about this, and asked if she really felt it was appropriate. She always throws my own training back in my face, and asks me if anyone has complained that these actions are “unwanted”. At this point, none of the guys have come to me complaining. Nothing against her personally, she is a fun-loving, free-spirit. I’m just becoming a little paranoid and wanted to know if you think I should do something more about this type of behavior. Her manager, which is the top boss here, does not seem to mind at all.
-RJS
As the HR manager I have spoken with her several times about this, and asked if she really felt it was appropriate. She always throws my own training back in my face, and asks me if anyone has complained that these actions are “unwanted”. At this point, none of the guys have come to me complaining. Nothing against her personally, she is a fun-loving, free-spirit. I’m just becoming a little paranoid and wanted to know if you think I should do something more about this type of behavior. Her manager, which is the top boss here, does not seem to mind at all.
-RJS
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Oh, and I just had to add this: x:*
Because this just seems to be 'her way', maybe you can just have a sit down with her to discuss how this type of behavior is not appropriate and even though noone has complained, doesn't mean it's acceptable.
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
My $0.02 worth.
DJ The Balloonman
I have documented everything I've said to her....thanks for your comments. I'll try to tighten the noose and see what happens. She is a handful, I'll keep you posted!!!
-RJS
x:D
My $0.02 worth.
DJ The Balloonman
While I don't kiss everyone I do go around the office greeting everyone, and wishing everyone to have a Blessed day. If she is treating everone the same and the organization employees (the affected unit) are not complaining you can put your worries aside. Obviously, she is addressing her strong (touchy-feelly) conduct with just senior male leaders, a group in which she depends on their support, because she is so very sweet! As the HR I would: make sure she knows you are not interested in her display of effection! I would then seek out her boss for consultation and the building of a plan which will get her to modity her approach to the leaders, then you get out of the issue and plan; this is manager problem for the behavior change of the EE's behaviors or suffer the end consequence.
Hope this helps!
PORK
Notice HireFire never answered my question if she was a hottie? x:o
Cause there are two standards............you can be she ain't real ugly or there would have been compaints by now.
My $0.02 worth.
DJ The Balloonman
Headline: "Qualified Masters Level Employee Does Not Receive Raise While Kissing Bandit Gets Bonus"
Not a suit I'd like to defend.
I agree with all that it needs to stop - unfortunately it's an employee of a top boss.
Good luck.
XXXOOOOOO
Zanne
I don't mind the occasional hug (I'm not a hugger) but draw the line at smooches and leaping into ones arms. At least from employees, anyway! My kids are a different story.
I'd write her up for inappropriate behavior and explain to her that if I reasonably believe someone's behavior is offensive, I must take action, even if nobody has complained. Preventing uncomfortable situations is my job.
Something is out of whack here. Its one of those annoying things HR gets to deal with.
Paul in Cannon Beach
I wouldn't want to participate in European-style cheek kissing either, and fortunately haven't been put in that position. If it were an issue at my particular workplace, I'd build "appropriate greeting practices" into my sexual harassment training. We have a very diverse team and somehow this hasn't come up. Or it's happening and I don't know it. Hmmm. Gives me something to ponder. x:*
When I first came to work at our medical practice, we had some people who were just too "touchy feeley" (giving neck rubs, backrubs, etc.). It wasn't that they were doing something really "wrong" it was just unprofessional and did not look good to other employees as well as patients.
One more talk with her - yeah someone is offended - me.
Also, when someone new starts, are they advised of this? This type of behavior is not professional and would advise her that continued disregard for the policies in place will result in actions leading up to and including her termination....
Also, how would she like it if her signficant other or spouse (if she has one) had someone like her at work....would she like to walk in on someone rushing into their arms and giving them a big 'ole smooch?
No new updates on hotlips lucy, still chasing and hugging anybody that walks by....In summary, she's pretty much untouchable. Over the years I've learned what battles to fight, and what battles to watch blow up in the faces of the leaders that make the situation untouchable. I will continue to document..document...document..then...wait....wait...wait..for...Kaboom! :-S
-RJS