Employee Wants an Advocate
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Sybil wants to lodge a grievance against her supervisor, who she feels is badgering her. She also wants to bring in someone of her choosing into any ensuing conversations, as an advocate. Should I allow this? Please read on for details.
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She has a long history of complaints against her supervisor, and her supervisor has a long list of (documented) issues with her. Sybill has been in and out of my office many times with her complaints which I generally direct back to the supervisor, or become involved in facilitating directly.
She now feels as though the supervisor, the supervisor's supervisor, and I are all on one side, and she says she feels intimidated being in a meeting with any of us on this issue. She wants to bring along someone who will "be on her side." None of our policies allow for such a person.
I can say no, but one thing that works against me is that in one other instance with another employee I allowed someone to accompany her in a meeting. It was not a grievance or disciplinary meeting, it was a meeting in which she was returning from leave and the supervisor wanted to lay out the job responsibilities expected at various hours. A friend of this employee, a senior person who is an experienced manager, asked to accompany this person to help her listen and understand what was being asked of her, and to figure out how to respond if there were issues with what was being proposed. The reason I allowed it because the employee is not good at asking follow up questions and responding in meetings in such a way that we can understand if a plan is going to work for her or not. This was an issue where the person was returning from a long recovery from an illness and it was important that she not take on more than she felt she could just because she wanted to be compliant. It is true that she has performance issues, and in part we wanted to make sure she understood what was being asked of her.
Sybill, however, has a different set of issues. She is not one who can't speak up for herself. She *is* one who is extremely argumentative, sets her mind on one perspective and doesn't let go, has a long list of injustices she feels has been done to her and despite what anyone says brings up years old issues to prove her point.
I would almost be easier if she asked to bring her lawyer because I would say no without guilt. Do I create a problem if I don't allow her to bring someone of her choosing into this meeting?
Carol
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She has a long history of complaints against her supervisor, and her supervisor has a long list of (documented) issues with her. Sybill has been in and out of my office many times with her complaints which I generally direct back to the supervisor, or become involved in facilitating directly.
She now feels as though the supervisor, the supervisor's supervisor, and I are all on one side, and she says she feels intimidated being in a meeting with any of us on this issue. She wants to bring along someone who will "be on her side." None of our policies allow for such a person.
I can say no, but one thing that works against me is that in one other instance with another employee I allowed someone to accompany her in a meeting. It was not a grievance or disciplinary meeting, it was a meeting in which she was returning from leave and the supervisor wanted to lay out the job responsibilities expected at various hours. A friend of this employee, a senior person who is an experienced manager, asked to accompany this person to help her listen and understand what was being asked of her, and to figure out how to respond if there were issues with what was being proposed. The reason I allowed it because the employee is not good at asking follow up questions and responding in meetings in such a way that we can understand if a plan is going to work for her or not. This was an issue where the person was returning from a long recovery from an illness and it was important that she not take on more than she felt she could just because she wanted to be compliant. It is true that she has performance issues, and in part we wanted to make sure she understood what was being asked of her.
Sybill, however, has a different set of issues. She is not one who can't speak up for herself. She *is* one who is extremely argumentative, sets her mind on one perspective and doesn't let go, has a long list of injustices she feels has been done to her and despite what anyone says brings up years old issues to prove her point.
I would almost be easier if she asked to bring her lawyer because I would say no without guilt. Do I create a problem if I don't allow her to bring someone of her choosing into this meeting?
Carol
Comments
Sybil. Heh heh. Don't we all have one of those? (:|
I see from the responses so far here that people are mixed between do it and don't. What about if it were a mutually agreed upon person, and if the person's role was simply as witness to what occurs, not as one who argues the points with the employee? I don't think I could get my supervisor to agree to anything other than a witness role, and I'm not much interested in it either. Sybill is one who will argue with her rep if she doesn't like what that person has to tell her, and then we'll have a three-ring circus going.
And to answer Cali's other question, yes there seems to be one in every organization sooner or later. The kicker is that Sybill is quite a good worker, but the attitude and behavior sucks. I haven't even told the half of it!
I would tell her no. If she presses the issue, tell her no in a louder tone of voice.
If you allow an advocate, you will want another management representative with you. You will want to take accurate notes of the meeting or even tape it. Actually, you probably want to do this anyway.
I would not let her bring in a representative.