I'm thinking about resigning
PAhr
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This isn't a har-de-har at all, but I could use some feedback. Does anyone ever just get so overwhelmed they consider resigning? This isn't exactly the job I always dreamed of anyway. I'm tired of the things I do and there are some other issues with this job that just nag at me. I don't know if it's just me or the feelings I have toward the company. In the time I have been here I have been asked to do some things which I question. I'm getting prepared right now to do something that I'm just not sure I'm right with. I know that what I'm dealing with is just business, and in the beginning I honestly felt like what happened was appropriate but now I have reason to believe that maybe it wasn't. What do you do when you just aren't happy anymore?
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The only thing I couldn't put up with is if I felt pressured to do things that I felt were unethical or just against my principles in general. When considering changing jobs, I usually draw a line down the center of a piece of paper, and list the pros and cons of where I am now.
Respect for you and the position you hold is worth a lot. If you don't feel this respect, then it's probably time to look elsewhere.
Good luck - it's almost Friday.
Basically, when the s**t finally hits the fan around here, I want to be far away. I was on the phone yesterday with the attorney about three separate employee cases and we only have 32 employees, for goodness sake.
There is no job in the world that is worth keeping if you dread coming to work day after day. If you are asked to do things that you don't believe in, you are performing as a puppet rather than a manager. Occasionally you have to bite the bullet and do something against your wishes, but if you're always in the minority, you're either working for the wrong people, the wrong company or the job is the wrong fit for you.
Hold your head high and be proud of your accomplishments to date; chances are you've had some successes in your past and you need to be proud of them and find the right fit for you.
I believed that most companies were alike...same cast of characters with different faces until a friend took this job in NYC. Not that everything is perfect, but the company really seems to have it together.
So I guess the morale is that if you're not happy, start looking...a great fit might be right around the corner!
In my current situation, my dotted line report is to the local VP (plant manager) who sees HR strictly as an administrative dept who rubber stamps what he wants. But my solid line report is to a corporate director who could go toe to toe with Don D, in fact those two are very much alike. Obviously, he believes in a strong HR and fortunately supports me 100%. If it were not for him, the VP would have fired me a long time ago, because I'm not the rubber stamper type. Even though I have 25 years in this business, I have only 6 years in HR and my corporate boss has been a good mentor. I believe it is important to have someone you trust to go to for advice, help, consolation, whatever.
I think if your miserable job is causing a miserable life then it is time to go.
I was done with tolerating unethical behavior, poor quality work, lack of commitment from some managers, and I was done being taken for granted. Leaving was gut-wrenching - there were so many who had been there longer than me and are still there, whom I respect and admire. I still keep in touch with a few.
I've been with my "new" company for 2 years and never regretted the decision to leave the old one. I wrestled with the idea of leaving for a year which was enough time to make darned sure I was making the right decision for ME.
It's rarely an easy decision to leave. It just hits you at some point that you've been entertaining the thought of leaving for WAAYYYY too long and it's time to go.
Good luck in making your decision.
It goes without saying that I prefere not to tell people where I work. A friend of mine said she was in a conversation with some people who had read the article. Needless to say the comments weren't pretty at all. I can't get away from the situation but I don't think staying is an option anymore.
Katrina Hutchins
"It's kind of fun to do the impossible..." ~ Walt Disney
I'm also not a quitter - I tend to keep looking for things to change, get better. But it sometimes gets to a point when the dread of going to work every morning becomes all-consuming, and the frustrations of the day haunt your weekends and your dreams.
As I write this, I realize that I've now been in my current job for just about as long as I spent on the horrible one I left two and a half years ago. I knew I had to get out, because the frustration was nearly crippling. But it took a "final straw" to make me update the resume - sitting at a dinner (spouses included) during which the new VP of Administration (whom I thought would bring a real-world perspective to the provincial thinkers in the company) extolling the Christian virtues of the company President (the guy who referred to his whole workforce as a bunch of f***ing losers). I had to fight back the tears and resist bolting from the table - after my spouse saw first-hand that night what I'd been telling him about, he encouraged me to pull myself up out of the black hole I'd been existing in, and I now have the most wonderful job I could ever have imagined!
My advice - make your decision and your move BEFORE your self-esteem drops so low that you feel as if this is the best you can do. Don't let your current situation paralyze you into inertia - you have value to bring to an organization that will appreciate your presence! Best wishes!